Unfair. Unnecessary. Wrong.

I donated $50.00 to No on Prop 8 today. I’m not usually a political donor in any form or fashion, and I hadn’t planned on donating to this campaign, but then I befriended an old high school classmate on Facebook last week. She plastered her support for Prop 8 on her profile, she added a special countdown to her blog and then posted twice about having just sent in her ballot wherein she voted Yes on Prop 8.

I don’t usually care what my friends or acquaintances think about religion or politics. I like a good discussion, but in the end, those beliefs are theirs. I didn’t think it would bother me that this person, who I don’t really know at all save for what I remember of her from high school about 13 years ago, would matter that much to me. When I logged on this morning to see her excitement over having voted to deny same-sex couples the right to marry, that she derived joy from shitting on gays, well, it lit up a spark. I can’t really explain it other than to say I felt a deep sense of disappointment and sadness. So I did what I thought was the very best thing in that moment. I donated $50.00 in her name to No on Prop 8.

I’m not going to try to convince anyone to vote one way or another. I can only hope that people who feel good about taking rights away from others will one day understand what it feels like to be treated as less; will have the gnawing frustration of unfairness eat away their arrogance.

In February of 2006, Janie and I had a commitment ceremony. We were not given the chance to marry legally, but the joy and beauty of that day was ours regardless. That’s something that can’t be taken away from us or any other gay couple willing to stand up and pledge their lives to one another. No one can tell us our love is invalid and take it away in the same way they intend to nullify the legal marriages gays in California have celebrated over these last months. But that is no excuse to give up this fight, especially if Prop 8 passes and the bigots have their way, for now. There are 47 other states in which we can make a difference and countless ways in which we can fight the inequity. If you have the means and the desire, consider donating to No on Prop 8.


  1. October 24, 2008

    I’m still blown away that people actually have to fight to be able to celebrate their love for another consenting adult. We have a handful of boneheads in Canada too, but we pretty much declared this whole same-sex marriage thing a non-issue and just let everyone get on with their lives as they see fit. It’s just nuts that people actual put in time and effort in trying to prevent something so completely harmless.

  2. October 26, 2008

    Who are these people? I honestly don’t know one person who supports Prop 8 and I hope never to encounter them. Live and let live, people.

  3. LiizzieLou
    October 27, 2008

    And making the donation in her name was a stroke of genius. I hope she gets a thank-you note and some literature.

  4. mrn!
    November 1, 2008

    I know exactly who you are referring to and was as pissed (and, really, dismayed) as you. I love your response, and think I’ll do the same.

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