Tough Times Ahead

The husband of a friend of mine was in a motorcycle accident this past weekend on their ride back from a wedding in Portland. He hit his head pretty hard and is now sitting in Harborview with severe injuries. Things are now so bad that she is considering whether he would want to live if he were incapacitated. I can’t even imagine what a difficult time this is for her and their family. Yet again, I am without the words to properly express my love and concern to someone who suffers. She and her husband have close friends and family surrounding them and an extensive network of people praying hard and opening their hearts to bear some of the burden. Hug your husbands and wives, tell the people you love how much they mean to you. Life is complicated and, often, too short or burdened by sickness and pain.

Most of all, keep fighting, Gary. This world is not ready to lose you.


  1. August 14, 2008

    Thank you for the much needed reminder.

  2. August 15, 2008

    In a way this is what they talked about at my church last weekend… when you don’t know what to say to your need to know that you don’t need to say anything…you are there, that’s what matters. I hope that things turn out for the best.

  3. heathen
    August 15, 2008

    I think there’s always a desire to say something that is perfect and comforting, but no such thing ever really exists when the situation is such an immense tragedy. It’s hard to get around that, but you’re right. Just being there for someone is what matters the most.

  4. August 16, 2008

    It is amazing, isn’t it, this desire we all have to say the “perfect words” and make the pain go away. And yet we all know what it’s like to be on the receiving end of such attempts. The wiser amongst us know the futility, and yet this need drives us so. This must be something hard-wired into us.

    Presence, though, communicates far more than any words can. Loneliness is the worst pain we can feel. A simple hug imparts far more meaning than the most elegant missive. You may not be able to find the perfect words, but you can communicate with elegance and grace.

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